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When Business Costs Too Much

May 13th, 2008

High Cost of GasLately I’ve been so busy working on my business (revising the website, preparing for a client project, learning about social networks, blogging, etc.) that, at times I’ve lost sight of what’s most important - the people around me. The cost of doing business had skyrocketed higher than the price of gasoline and I was completely taken by surprise.

Last night after I said prayers with Sweet Pea and made my way into the hallway just outside her bedroom door, she called me back into her room. My 12-year old daughter wasn’t finished talking. I hadn’t given her enough time. So I went back into her room to hear what she had to say. WHAT she said was not really all that important. The fact that she WANTED to talk was, and I needed to listen.

This morning as Schmitty and I were starting off our day, he pointed out that in the last few weeks we’ve not been very intentional about taking care of our relationship. To be fair, we’ve had a lot going on. Work - his and mine, two trips to Canada related to his father’s hospitalization and passing. We’ve run from soccer field to softball field, to violin lessons, and appointments out the wazoo.

But he was right. We have a great relationship, so it’s fairly easy to notice when something is even slightly off kilter.

Today when my lunch appointment had to reschedule, I saved the block of time so Schmitty and I could have lunch together. We reconnected, though briefly. He had leftover chicken wings and I ate a peanut butter and banana sandwich. And it was good.

The personal cost of starting/running your own business can be great. Today I needed to remember that I don’t want to pay that cost by sacrificing the people around me. My marriage and our family are simply too important.

What about you? How do you keep track of the personal cost of doing business? What do you do when you get off track?

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My personal business is my writing–so for me there isn’t the pressure to make money. That has been a real blessing. When a project gets too all consuming, I can step back, take some time.

Like I’m doing right now in fact. I have a manuscript almost ready. I have agents waiting for it. But I made sure to give myself an unbelievably long deadline (by Sept. 08) so I could move that work to the bottom of the priority list whenever I need to.


Sorry it took me forever to actually get over to this and reply!
I was actually putting my family firmly in first place over the weekend while we were on vacation.

It’s hard to remember this axiom at times, but critical.

Part of the reason so much of my ‘online time’ is so late at night is because there are times where I’m going to have to sacrifice something to make it happen, and between sacrificing time with my family and sleep? The latter will always go first.

You seem to have a great handle on it! :) Thanks for sending me the link.


This is on the top of my mind recently. Unfortunately for me, doing something about it is harder than thinking about it!

It’s ironic. When I was in the Corporate World, I often felt pulled in two directions. Even when I took my vacations, it was hard to separate myself from that world and just be with my family. Often, I felt I had to choose between career and family.

I became independent so the choice would be clearer, but it didn’t turn out to be that simple.

Big lesson there for me.

Now I feel that I have more freedom to choose where I place my focus, but I still need to exercise my focus muscles so I actually choose the best thing on my own.

This weekend we’re going on a hike

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